Comments on: Love at First Sight … is it really?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 12:36:37 +0000

Love at first sight is a widely debated notion. Some say that true love based on physical appearance without a deeper understanding of a person does not exist. Others argue that one may be able to recognize true love immediately.

I am currently studying Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet, and trust me, I believe in love at first sight completly. Romeo and Juliet fall in love and get married in a matter of days. It all happens so quickly it might seem hard to believe. But it’s not so hard to think of times in our own lives when we’ve fallen in love at first sight – if not with a person, then with a significant thing, like a house or a car or a dream job.

We can see that love at first sight did exist during the time of shakespeare, but has it died with Romeo and Juliet? Course not…its just rarer.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 16 Nov 2007 12:34:29 +0000

Love at first sight - Is it just a celluloid reality?

Their eyes met. Time seemed to come to a standstill. Like the famous lines ”aur us pal me koi nahin hai. Bus ek mai hu aur ek tum ho.” Though this magical first look and falling in love at first sight has been a staple of romantic novels and movies…

By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 00:47:32 +0000

First off, there are many different types of love. I love you, you say “I love you victor” when we’re on the phone but that doesn’t mean that you’re head over heels for us. I can say that I have only been truly in love once, and that is with Victor. I do still love Devin and Gary but not in the same way as I do Victor. The media may have played a very small insignificant role in that but the majority of
that has been my socialization growing up and mostly the role my mother played in my life. My quest to continue finding “the one” is a person choice just like staying a virgin has been a personal choice,
the media definitely hasn’t played any part in that or else I’d be sleeping with everyone I was with. Part of that was also influence by my religion. We believe that marriage is a sacred thing between a man
and a women, a gift so to speak, and with that comes the joy of sex, being able to put into physical form the emotion of love. I will say that media did play a role in defining what constituted a virgin and
also sex but, again, my view was changed due to understanding more about what the bible says. So breaking it down, the major factors were my mom and my religious beliefs, the media obviously frames much of what our society believes to be a “relationship” or acceptable behavior while in a relationship but I don’t think any of that had a big part in my way of thinking. So, do I believe in true love and that
people can live happily ever after? Of course! Will everybody get it? No. Why not? Becuase it takes a lot of work to acheive it. In the end, though, its worth it.

By: Darkspell

Darkspell — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 07:10:49 +0000

Now Sarah, everything you say is true from an analytical psychology major way (which you are) but I also know for a fact you have been in “love” far many times then I can count. Is there any way behind your subconscious that the media (Disney movies?) may have affected you to keep on trying to find “the one”?

By: Darkspell

Darkspell — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 07:07:05 +0000

Chris, since you say people fall in and out of love a lot… do you have any experience in that? Plus do you still want to call it “love” or lust?

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 22:42:43 +0000

I will definitely admit that the media over exagerates “love at first sight” and that is does have a negative affect on what people’s definition of “love” is. The love portrayed by the media most often is in all actuality, lust. It is a scene where two people gaze into eachothers eyes and, with the backgroud music playing to enhance the viewers mood, both parties know that they have fallen in love. From there they continue by expressing that “love” in many sort of physical expression. And…that’s it. That was “love at first sight”. Now I am definitely not saying love at first sight doesn’t exist becuase by saying that I would be overestimating my intelligence by assuming I have knowledge of every single relationship that has ever graced the face of the earth. I do believe though that what the media often calls love, is in fact lust. If they wanted to acurately portray love at first sight they would have to continue following the couple into the years where the real intimacy of the realtionship flourishes. Where the couple would encounter differing opinions, the tedious task of managing finances, the awkardness at times of sexual intimacy, weight gain after having kids and all the other less glamorous, but equally important, aspects of love as it is acted out in a real-life, commited realtionship.

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By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 18:37:37 +0000

I for one do belive in the “myth” Love is illogical; its funny hearing myself saying that since i am an engineer and our life revoles around logic, lol. In any case though, it may not be both people being in love, it could be just one. This is coming from personal experience.

But really now, most people see the other person and falls in love with them, btu this happends on different degrees of love, it could be a little or it could be a lot. I say this because people fall in love and out of love in any relationship. Have you seen the divorce rate lately???

-Chris